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Topic – Be a Parent Who Empowers Your Child’s Career Development

Hello.
Your child’s career path is more important than any other issue. How you help them develop it can significantly shape their future. In our rapidly changing society, many parents deeply ponder, “How can my child effectively develop their career path and grow into a successful leader?”
Today’s career guidance no longer stops at simply identifying aptitudes and interests to choose a job. It has evolved into the concept of lifelong career exploration, where individuals continuously seek their own path throughout their growth. While many parents believe, like figure skater Kim Yuna, that a child’s aptitude should be discovered and nurtured early from childhood, they often find themselves at a loss regarding how to actually identify and cultivate that aptitude. This stems from the reality that education in our country still focuses primarily on guiding children toward immediate academic grades rather than career development.
To properly develop a child’s career path, it is essential above all that the child deeply understands themselves. If they can independently identify what they want to do, what they are good at, and set their own life goals, that is the essence of proper career education. And the person who plays the most crucial role in this process is the parent.
Parents should provide their children with diverse experiences and opportunities for hands-on activities, introduce role models worth emulating, and become facilitators who help build their career portfolios together. Furthermore, helping children concretize their dreams or goals is also the parents’ responsibility. Parents, please be a solid pillar of support for your children as you set goals together and work towards achieving those dreams.
Above all, it is crucial to listen more attentively to your children. Genuine listening empowers them to organize their thoughts and design their future. When parental interest and support converge, your child’s career development can grow much more solidly and meaningfully.
To help our children walk their own paths with confidence, let us begin together, one step at a time, starting today. I sincerely thank everyone for your attentive listening.

Topic – Raising Children with Autonomy

Respected Parents, Hello.
We sincerely welcome you to this parent seminar on raising children with autonomy. We deeply appreciate you taking time out of your busy schedules for your children’s bright future.
Before standing on this podium as a youth counselor, I too served as a teacher in the classroom. During that time, through many student interviews, I discovered that a significant number of children experienced considerable stress in their relationships with their parents. These children generally lacked confidence in their own decisions and showed a tendency to depend on others. They often struggled to plan their own lives or make choices independently.
To understand the reasons more deeply, I engaged in sincere conversations with these children. Surprisingly, despite being at a crucial stage of growth, their expressions and tone carried a weariness and apathy as if they had already lived a lifetime.
In 2022, the Kyunghyang Shinmun published a series titled ‘7 Promises to Save Your Child’. Its contents are as follows: First, children should be happy now. Second, the best learning is play. Third, doing what you want to do is success. Fourth, another child’s happiness is my child’s happiness. Fifth, learning comes before grades. Sixth, college should be a choice. Finally, seventh, the child is the master of their own life.
I felt these seven points, separate from parents’ good intentions, were like a concentrated force of wind that weighed children down and exhausted them. Among the children I met at school, almost none held the happiness of ‘now’ in their hearts. Most were sacrificing the present for an uncertain future success and happiness that might never come. Play should be the best learning, yet the pressure called ‘studying’ held them back, forcing them to constantly compete with friends within the confines of grades. University became not a ‘choice’ but a ‘necessity,’ and children were forced into high-scoring schools and departments without any consideration for what they truly wanted to do. Ultimately, the role of ‘master’ in the children’s lives increasingly became the domain of their parents and society, not themselves.
Parents, we want our children to navigate the world with agency and independent thought. Yet reality falls far short of this hope. Instead, our society is dominated by an educational system that crushes children’s autonomy and judgment, turning them into mere ‘production machines’ churning out grades.
Of course, as a parent myself, I deeply understand the expectations and worries we hold for our children. I also know these expectations stem not from mere selfishness, but from a love wishing for our children’s betterment. Yet now is the time to step back and deeply contemplate ‘what truly serves our children best.’ Success is not solely about securing a high-income, socially recognized profession. ‘Doing what one truly wants to do’ – that is true success.
Therefore, for our children to achieve true success, above all else, they must possess the agency to discover and choose what they truly desire. Your guidance and support form the very foundation for cultivating that agency.
Children’s happiness and future grow from the choices and attitudes they make in this very moment. Your warm gaze and wise guidance will be the greatest strength enabling them to become masters of their own lives and walk forward with confidence.
Thank you.

Topic – Self-Esteem Brings Positive Change to Children

I sincerely respect and thank all of you who have joined us here today with deep love and devotion for your children. Because you hold your children above all else, I believe the story I share today will resonate deeply with you.
I am Lecturer ○○○, teaching Child Psychology at ○○ University. Before beginning my lecture, I invite you to briefly recall your own childhood. Among the countless words spoken by your parents, there were likely compliments that filled your heart with overwhelming joy. Conversely, there may also have been criticisms that deeply wounded your heart and brought despair. Some of those words may remain unforgotten even after many years, lingering deep within your heart and still acting as wounds. Even if consciously forgotten, these memories, etched into our subconscious, remain as long-term trauma, influencing our actions and attitudes.
Could it be that, without realizing it, you are passing on the very wounds you received in the past to your own children? School-age children, in particular, react very sensitively to their parents’ words and attitudes. Every word a parent speaks forms a crucial foundation for how a child views themselves—that is, their self-esteem. Self-esteem is the power to love oneself and positively accept one’s own worth. A child who cannot love themselves and fails to recognize their own value cannot build a healthy self. Furthermore, as mentioned earlier, this can lead to a vicious cycle where the wounds they received are repeated onto their own child.
The image of a good parent can be defined in many ways. However, I believe the most crucial element is character education. The most important goal is to raise a child who grows up healthy and loved, with positive thinking and a stable sense of self. Other knowledge or skills can be sufficiently supplemented later, but character is not something cultivated in a short time, and it is difficult to improve belatedly after the child has grown up. That is why this very moment is the most important.
Parents are absolute figures to their children, acting as their mirrors. For children to hold many happy memories and live healthy, beautiful lives throughout their lives, we as parents must strive first. Today’s gathering is precisely where we take that first step together. Using the Self-Esteem Scale developed by Rosenberg, we will indirectly gauge your child’s level of self-esteem and establish a direction for the future. This test is a tool with proven high reliability and validity, and it will provide you with meaningful insights.
Now, let’s begin the main lecture. I want to deeply share with you how to protect your child’s heart and nurture their self-esteem. Thank you once again for listening attentively until the end. I hope this time today becomes a precious opportunity that brings positive change to both your lives and your children’s lives.

Topic – The Backfire Effect of Praise

There’s a belief that ‘the more praise, the better.’ Many parents and teachers think they should praise even the smallest things whenever possible. However, psychologists warn that this habit can actually have a negative impact on children. Overusing praise for minor things can diminish its impact when it’s truly deserved. It may also lead children to act solely for praise, losing their intrinsic motivation to act voluntarily. Ultimately, when praise becomes commonplace, its value fades, losing its meaning and power.
Of course, this primarily applies to homes or environments where praise is already routinely and abundantly given. Our society still lives in a culture where even justified praise doesn’t flow easily, so this situation doesn’t apply to every household. However, among children raised in an environment of frequent praise, many become accustomed to the ‘sweetness’ of praise but tend to avoid the ‘bitterness’ of patience or criticism. They sometimes display overly spoiled or easily hurt behavior, and when faced with difficulties, they may give up easily.
The EBS DocuPrime episode “What is School?” scientifically demonstrated the ‘backfire effect of praise’ we often overlook. This program sounded an alarm for parents who blindly believed in the effectiveness of praise. Children receiving ability-focused praise like “You’re good” or “You’re smart” actually felt burdened, preventing them from performing to their true potential. Some even resorted to cheating to avoid disappointing others. Praise transformed from motivation into pressure, and from that moment, it ceased to be medicine and became poison.
For children’s growth, appropriate reprimands and realistic feedback are absolutely necessary. Just as the saying goes, “Too much is as bad as too little,” balance is crucial with praise as well. When offering praise, focus should be on the process and attitude rather than the outcome. It is preferable to acknowledge the effort and willingness to challenge oneself in difficult situations, rather than offering meaningless, superficial praise. Even if they fail, it’s crucial to offer encouragement like “It’s okay” and guide them so that experience becomes a foundation for growth. Praise that values effort and growth over ability fosters healthier children.
Praise holds greater value when it’s rare. Only sincere praise given at moments of effort and achievement, not handed out indiscriminately, stays with children long-term and becomes a source of strength. This isn’t about withholding praise, but about preserving its weight and meaning. Only when children experience both the sweetness of praise and the bitterness of criticism in equal measure do they truly become resilient.

Topic – We should aim for a study environment focused on interest

The secret to the popularity of a Korean language instructor who once made a name for himself in the cram school district was his catchphrase: “Underline it all!” Students desperate for even one extra point flocked to hear his “words.” Shouting “This will definitely be on the test!” he commanded, and students drew lines on their books in unison with his “Underline!” Soon, the Korean textbooks were covered in blue and red lines, transforming like autumn mountains dyed with foliage. Sadly, though, the masterpieces in the Korean textbooks—stories crafted with brilliant prose and creative ideas—often lost their original flavor under this barrage of underlining. Still, since underlining and memorizing boosted grades, students couldn’t help but be enthusiastic about “Underline everything!”
Recently, an article headline caught my eye, introducing a female student who scored perfect marks on this year’s notoriously difficult college entrance exam. “Self-directed learning without cram school.” While clichés like “studied only textbooks without a single private lesson” were common before, the term has now shifted to ‘self-directed learning’. Recently, the phrase ‘self-directed learning’ has become trendy in the cram school industry, replacing ‘highlighting everything!’. The intent is to encourage students to find joy in studying by setting their own plans rather than following what cram schools dictate. Yet reality is different. Ironically, intertwined with the admissions officer system, cram schools teaching self-directed learning are thriving—a situation so absurd it’s not funny. The fact that even self-directed learning must be learned at a cram school is truly jaw-dropping.
This reality was also glimpsed in the recent ‘Programme for International Student Assessment’ (PISA) report released by the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD). This assessment, conducted every three years, measures the academic achievement of 15-year-old students (equivalent to 9th to 10th grade) in reading, mathematics, and science. South Korean students ranked among the top performers out of 65 countries. The problem is that this report once again confirms that they only excel in test scores. Particularly in the reading domain, which was the focus of this survey, Korean students ranked a mere 58th in ‘the ability to read with purpose and ask questions (control strategies)’. Their interest in reading ranked only 28th. In other words, while their test scores are outstanding, their ability to independently find books to read out of genuine interest lags significantly behind their peers in other countries. Is it truly desirable to have a reality where students excel academically yet fail to experience the joy of reading or engage in deep reading?
These results reveal that despite the loud rhetoric of ‘self-directed learning,’ the reality remains trapped in a ‘highlight everything!’ style of learning that has lost the taste of words and stifled imagination. In a reality where self-directed learning coexists with dependence on cram schools, our children’s top reading scores feel bitter and pitiful. Children need an environment where they can turn pages and immerse themselves joyfully, not read forcibly for grades.
For this, parents’ perceptions must change first. We must break free from the mindset that even self-directed learning requires answers from cram schools. The essence of learning lies not in memorizing knowledge, but in enjoying the process of discovery and expanding one’s own thinking. Helping children study in an environment that sparks their interest—that is the path parents and society must build together. Interest is the driving force behind sustained learning, and studying with enjoyment ultimately leads to deeper achievement.
Thank you for listening.

Topic – Communicate with Your Child Using the Direct Approach

Hello.
I am ○○○, a parent seminar instructor. I imagine many parents here are deeply concerned about their child’s eating habits. As a parent raising children myself, I understand those worries and anxieties better than anyone. Today’s seminar topic is ‘The Direct Approach Language for Correcting Our Child’s Eating Habits’.
Shall I share a story about my younger sibling?
My sister also struggles tremendously to correct her child’s eating habits. The problem is, the child never finishes the food on their plate. They might eat half a bowl at most. My sister always starts the conversation the same way. She doesn’t state the rule directly or forcefully, but subtly conveys the message: “You must eat everything on your plate.” And each time, she says something like this:

“Poor children wouldn’t complain like you do. They’d be very happy to eat the food you leave behind.”

Then the child usually responds like this.

“Then give this to them.”

Here, we need to consider one thing. If our goal is the child’s health, forcing them to eat food they don’t want or need is not desirable. Instead, teaching the child not to waste food is more important. This is better achieved through small habits, like not piling more food on the child’s plate than they need, rather than insisting, “You must eat it because it’s good for you.”
Parents, how do you typically shape your child’s eating habits? When trying to correct eating habits, how do you approach your child? The key is to be direct. Let your child sense the ‘fundamental intent’ behind your words.
By having such direct and clear conversations, the day will come when your child voluntarily shows you an empty bowl. Then, both parent and child can smile.
Thank you.

Topic – The Importance of Writing

“Man is a social animal.”
This is Aristotle’s well-known proposition. We learn and study people and society based on this statement. Because to live as an autonomous self within the society I belong to, an understanding of people and society is essential. It is akin to the premise that “whales are mammals.” For a whale to live autonomously, it must understand both whales and mammals.
Thus, the reason for studying humanities and social sciences—including Korean language, history, geography, society, economics, ethics, and philosophy—is clear. These disciplines are not exact sciences demanding only correct answers; they are fields that cultivate thinking skills, logical reasoning, cognitive abilities, and sensitivity. And writing is indispensable for mastering and applying these disciplines. Writing is the tool that keeps the heart of the humanities and social sciences beating; it is the process of translating thoughts into concrete language.
Therefore, the disappearance of writing from schools is tantamount to the demise of humanities and social sciences education. Writing is the process of organizing and forming one’s own thoughts; it is the foundation that supports autonomy and diversity. Conversely, rote memorization is a process of instilling identical content into all students, fostering voluntary submission to existing orders and systems, and producing uniformity. This is why, in our society, the few who gain a fresh perspective on the world often find enlightenment not through formal education, but through seniors or other opportunities. This can be seen as the result of Korea’s educational environment neglecting writing and effectively killing the humanities and social sciences.
In truth, writing is not merely a skill but one of the fundamental desires inherent in every social being. Yet, many people say they will write ‘later’. But that ‘later’ often never comes. An ancient proverb says, “This is Rhodes. Jump here.” Writing is no different. You must start now, not later.
The force that completes a piece of writing is often humorously called “buttocks.” This isn’t just a joke; it symbolically shows how crucial persistence and continuity are in writing. Yet, students fear writing because, despite needing to express their own thoughts and arguments, they struggle to find a “correct answer.” Wandering in search of a non-existent “right answer” naturally makes it difficult. Ultimately, this stems from the absence of a writing training process.
Writing is an indispensable process in forming an autonomous self. If leaders were to ask, “How can we elevate our national stature?”, I would answer thus: Replace rote memorization with writing. For that is the true path to progress beyond national stature, toward a cultural society.
Thank you.

Topic – The Cost of Repeating the College Entrance Exam: Its Weight and Reality

When students fail the college entrance exam, many choose to repeat the process. That moment marks the beginning of an arduous journey. Reasons for repeating vary: some failed at every university they applied to, while others pause after securing admission to pursue a better institution. The students themselves are well aware of this reality. In an era of deepening youth unemployment, the reality is that securing a job is difficult unless one graduates from at least a mid-to-upper tier university in Seoul.
The problem is that there is no sign whatsoever that the number of retakers is decreasing. The numbers remain consistently high: 169,068 in 2022, 159,742 in 2023, and 161,784 in 2024. Especially when the so-called ‘easy college entrance exam’ is administered, the number of students taking a gap year to retake the exam increases, making a further rise highly likely.
The current re-taker culture differs significantly from the past. While many previously studied independently at home or attended regular cram schools, the prevailing belief now is that “scores improve only under strict discipline and systematic guidance.” Consequently, most students enroll in boarding cram schools. Living and studying in a closed environment can enhance concentration, but it inevitably weakens self-directed learning abilities.
And a crucial aspect of retaking the exam is the cost of cram school. When you add up textbook fees, meal costs, and special lecture fees, it amounts to about 2.5 to 3 million won per month, which is a huge burden for parents. Since it’s the path their child has chosen, parents often have no choice but to take out loans to cover the tuition, even if it means crying over spilled milk. Even as all the social attention is focused on ‘halving tuition fees,’ there’s nowhere to vent about the real problem of exorbitant cram school costs.
Nevertheless, parents have no choice but to bear the burden. Even as their wrinkles deepen and their lives grow tighter, the reality for parents of repeat exam takers in this country is that they endure everything if only their child gets into their desired university. Therefore, it is now necessary to bring the reality of repeat exam costs into the public discourse in some way. While changing the societal structure that encourages repeating exams should come first, it is time to seriously consider the issue of repeat exam costs alongside tuition fees.