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Pre-learning is tormenting for children

Hello, everyone.
Nowadays, getting a head start on Korean, English, and Math isn’t optional—it’s become a ‘must’. When vacation rolls around, the biggest mission given to many parents is figuring out how to manage this advanced learning. They want their kids to master not just the core subjects but also Social Studies and Science beforehand, setting everything up perfectly so their children can enter the field fully prepared when school starts again.
These days, children truly start ‘everything early’. They begin elementary school studies before even entering elementary school, prepare for middle school in the upper grades of elementary, and once in middle school, they start studying high school material ahead of time. The timing of preparation keeps getting earlier, and the pace keeps accelerating. It’s now difficult to even call learning next semester’s content during vacation ‘advance learning’.
The subject driving this advanced learning craze is undoubtedly English. Stories circulate of parents starting prenatal English education and children beginning English studies before they can even walk. The fervor surrounding English education has become so intense it now spreads like urban legends.
So why is everyone rushing to focus on advanced learning like this? Today’s children are the generation that has fully experienced the baptism of early English education and advanced math learning. One might expect this to yield distinctly different or outstanding results, but in reality, they don’t seem to be significantly better at English or show vastly superior math skills compared to previous generations.
The reason is that many confuse ‘doing something first’ with ‘doing it well’. The illusion that studying ahead allows one to surpass others—that is, arrogance—has become the very foundation of advanced learning. But starting early does not necessarily mean doing better.
The biggest problem with advanced learning is that it steals children’s time and makes them excessively busy. In trying to get ahead, there always seems to be ‘more to do’ and ‘more ground to cover,’ and that path appears endless. Many children must invest over four hours daily just to keep up with the curriculum offered by cram schools. These children live with schedules packed to the brim. They have no leisure, let alone the freedom to read at ease. Before encouraging reading, shouldn’t we first give children the ‘time’ and ‘leisure’ to actually read books?
We’ve always lived hearing the saying, “Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” But I want to tell today’s children this: “If it can be done tomorrow, it’s okay not to do it today.” How about we gift children the right to live today doing only what needs to be done today?
I firmly believe that is the best way for children’s emotional stability and healthy psychological development.
Thank you for listening.

Facing adolescence, that unfamiliar and cautious time

Parents intuitively sense when their child’s adolescence begins. Unlike before, they lock their door, sigh frequently, and seem somewhat gloomy—signs of change. Yet, dealing with it afterward is not easy. Even when fully understanding the changes and confusion their child is experiencing, parents often feel at a loss about what to do or how to help. They are left with only one earnest wish: that their child navigates this period safely and healthily.
They want to inject vitality into the anxious, sensitive daily life of adolescence, yet they hesitate to approach it too hastily. My child lives a busier life than ever before. After school, they rush straight to and from cram schools, often returning home past 11 PM. As a parent, I want to look into my child’s heart and share their worries through conversation, but the child is exhausted, both physically and mentally. Adolescence is more than just a stage of growth; it’s a time when both mind and body are shaken simultaneously.
The adolescent brain acquires information at an astonishingly rapid pace. This characteristic, similar to that of the infant brain, makes it a crucial period for learning and mastering much in a short time. However, this sensitivity is also a vulnerability. Stimuli received during this time leave a deeper impact than at any other stage. It is well established that if attachment formation with parents is disrupted during infancy or early childhood, or if neglect or abuse occurs, this can lead to emotional instability or social maladjustment in adulthood. The same principle applies to adolescence. Whether the child wants it or not, parents must consistently demonstrate that they are present alongside their child’s worries and anxieties. The simple signal that a parent is there, that sincere presence, can become a powerful protective barrier for the child.
Adolescents are highly sensitive, making them vulnerable to harmful influences like alcohol, tobacco, or drugs. If exposed to harmful games or negative relationships, the damage can be more severe than at any other stage. Remember that addiction is difficult to overcome once it takes hold, and the adolescent brain, while flexible, can also be defenseless.
A parent’s role is not simply to monitor and control their child. While carefully watching over them to prevent them from falling into the quagmire of addiction, the most crucial thing is to help the child feel that they are valued, considerate of others, and loved by family and friends. That warm feeling can build a strong inner core within the child.
Adolescence is a time of growth for parents too. Rather than seeking immediate answers, silently standing by your child, listening, trusting, and waiting—that is the greatest strength to help them navigate this period healthily.

Parental greed is the path to ruining a child

Hello, everyone.
Have you ever heard the term ‘Designer Baby’?
Today, I’d like to share a story that is both fascinating and, in a way, unsettling.
Designer Baby refers to a type of genetic selection technology made possible by advances in science and technology. Put more simply, it involves analyzing an embryo’s genetic traits through preimplantation genetic diagnosis (PGD) and selecting embryos with the characteristics desired by the parents for implantation into the uterus. This technology has been used for years to select a child’s gender, with thousands of such procedures reportedly performed.
In February, a medical institution led by Dr. Jeff Steinberg, an authority on 1970s IVF research, announced it would offer services allowing parents to select traits like a child’s hair color or eye color, sparking significant controversy. This announcement provoked fierce global backlash, and the service was ultimately withdrawn within a month.
The very idea that parents could select their child’s physical traits or abilities went beyond ethical debate, raising fundamental questions about the essence of human existence. Many countries have legally banned such procedures, and social concerns about them are also growing.
Of course, most people would understand and sympathize with parents carrying genetic disorders seeking medical help to have a healthy child. But is it truly justifiable to go beyond selecting gender and ‘design’ a child with double eyelids, tall stature, or a robust physique? If we can select embryos with genes for exceptional memory or high intelligence, or even adjust innate personality traits, this ceases to be about choosing life and becomes the creation of ‘custom-made humans’. This evokes a future where the production of ‘custom-made humans’ for military purposes becomes a reality.
Yet this narrative isn’t merely distant science fiction or a foreign concept. Excessive expectations and control over children are already manifesting in various ways within our daily lives.
For instance, observing the vacation schedules of elementary school students in our country reveals a startling level of busyness. English academies, math academies, swimming, piano, taekwondo—and increasingly, Chinese language academies, fueled by predictions of China’s future hegemony. English and math are now the baseline; sports and arts have become optional extras. Children’s days revolve around their parents’ schedules, and within this framework, the opportunity to ask what a child truly desires or wants to do is dwindling.
Of course, parents’ desire to do their best for their children is natural. However, when that desire fails to respect the child’s inherent value and instead pushes them to fit into the parent’s predetermined standards and molds, it can become oppressive and hurtful.
The wish for a child to grow up meeting parental expectations—perhaps letting go of that very wish is the beginning. The first step toward being a good parent is to respect and understand your child as an independent individual, before they are your child.
A parent’s greed can ultimately ruin a child. True education and genuine love lie in helping the child grow into their authentic self more than anyone else, and become an adult who can love themselves.
Thank you for reading.

Parental Greed: Where Does Love End?

‘Gangnam’ and ‘Gangbuk’. Though differing by just one syllable, the perceived distance between them is far from small. Even within Seoul, these two areas feel like an impassable boundary in education. Many prospective parents agonize over their residence like choosing an electronic product. Just as one considers quality assurance and after-sales service when purchasing goods, they strive to become ‘Gangnam residents’ for their child’s educational future, even if it means stretching themselves thin.
The saying ‘The surest way to break the cycle of poverty is through education’ remains true. There’s also the hope that even without private tutoring, children will naturally improve their skills by associating with more capable peers, and the expectation that the average level will rise. There’s a desperate sense that they cannot simply let their child be swept away by the tide.
But reality is harsh. Those living in Gangbuk don’t even have the luxury of glancing toward Gangnam. Gangnam, however, is a different story. In reality, it’s commonplace to see a new type of disguised relocation: families actually living in Gangnam and sending their children to academies there, yet enrolling them in middle schools in Gangbuk. This is a strategic ‘reverse relocation’ tactic aimed at securing a favorable overall school ranking for admission to specialized high schools. While the parties involved take pride in this as a clever decision, most citizens can only offer a bitter smile. This is the reality: even fellow Seoul citizens live in such fierce competition.
If my child were a prodigy, a genius, I might feel as if I possessed the world as a parent. But we must remember that a significant number of those officially designated as ‘prodigies’ were the result of advanced learning. Often, it was the outcome of parents’ intense intervention rather than innate talent. Purely natural prodigies are not that common.
A parent’s ambition isn’t always a bad thing. There are certainly cases where that ambition serves as positive motivation for the child, helping them grow into a talent essential to society. But what matters is the ‘direction’. A coercive attitude that seeks to design and control a child’s life according to the parent’s will must be guarded against. Because a child is not a parent’s creation, but a ‘person’ living their own life.
The line between parental love and ambition is always razor-thin. Clearly recognizing that boundary and walking alongside the child as a helper, enabling them to grow autonomously—isn’t that the true role of a parent?
Thank you for reading.

Can we produce talents like Steve Jobs?

‘Think different.’
Returning to Apple’s front lines with this slogan, Steve Jobs astonished the world once more through the successive successes of the iPod, iPhone, and iPad. Notably, in 2010, Apple achieved the remarkable feat of capturing 28% of the U.S. smartphone market with just a single iPhone model. In contrast, South Korea’s large corporations, despite flooding the market with dozens of smartphone models, failed to match Apple’s performance, leaving much to be desired. At the heart of this difference was one man: Steve Jobs. Apple’s success story wasn’t achieved solely through corporate strategy. It was possible because of the vision, philosophy, and decisive execution of a creative leader named Jobs.
You’ve probably thought at least once, “I wish we had someone like Steve Jobs in Korea.” He was a figure who transcended technology to change culture and redefine market order. Jobs was a living example of how much change one person’s vision and creativity can bring about. He is not alone in this regard. Consider Mark Zuckerberg, who started with a small project in a Harvard dorm room and, in just a few years, built Facebook, a social networking platform attracting over 500 million users worldwide. Or Bill Gates of Microsoft, who laid the foundation for the computer age. All of them changed the global business landscape through their personal imagination and execution. Interestingly, these three individuals also share the common trait of being ‘college dropouts’.
Meanwhile, a report from the Youth Policy Research Institute reveals that Korean teenagers spend an average of 7 hours and 50 minutes per day, over 50 hours per week, on studying. This makes one reflect on the current state of education. Most students experience accelerated learning through cram schools and private tutoring, enduring daily desk time with the mindset, “I have to do it because my friends are doing it too, I can’t fall behind.” Yet, despite investing so much time in studying, they lack the time to truly reflect on what they’ve learned. Consequently, they accumulate only superficial knowledge, and by the time 12 years of schooling from elementary to high school pass, they even lose their curiosity about knowledge.
We are increasingly becoming ‘short-answer humans’. Under the compulsion to memorize more, solve faster, and get higher scores, our ability to think independently and ask questions is steadily weakening. Are we transforming into memorization machines just to gain one more point on the college entrance exam?
Steve Jobs’ “Think different” is not merely an advertising slogan. It conveys the message that breaking free from familiar ways of thinking and shattering habitual, rigid notions through flexible thinking is what truly makes a difference. Ultimately, what matters isn’t ‘how much time was spent studying,’ but ‘who can think more creatively and see things differently.’ This is a crucial topic that both education and society must grapple with today.
Korea can certainly produce talent capable of changing the world, just like Steve Jobs. However, what matters most is creating an environment where such talent can grow freely—one that encourages imagination, self-questioning, and the courage to try again after failure. When a society respects creativity and autonomy, a culture embraces different perspectives without fear, and a system believes in and supports each individual’s potential, we will meet another Jobs. Now is the time to cheer for the child who thinks differently, not just the child who studies well.

The Importance of Accurate Message Delivery

Are children fearful, or are they fearless?
The answer might be the somewhat contradictory statement: ‘Both are true, and neither is true at the same time.’ However, this stems from the fact that children’s situations, ways of thinking, and emotional textures differ from those of adults. Children view the world through a completely different lens than adults. This isn’t just due to age but also because they have less experience with the world. As a result, children often interpret and react to the world in ways we don’t anticipate.
This difference becomes especially clear when a child feels fear. Yet, when a child shows fear toward an object or situation, many parents react similarly. They judge from an ‘adult perspective,’ dismissing the child’s feelings or scolding them. For example, telling a child afraid of insects, “What’s so scary about this little thing?” or scolding a child reluctant to ride an elevator, “Why are you afraid of that?”
The most common fears children experience are phobias related to specific objects or situations. Some children fear living creatures like insects, while others dread enclosed spaces like elevators. This anxiety is more common than one might think, affecting roughly one in six or seven children. The problem, however, is that parents’ reactions to these fears often convey negative messages.
From the child’s perspective, parental scolding can be hurtful because it represents a negative reaction from someone they love and trust. A single word from a parent can wound their feelings, often leading them to feel like a ‘bad child’ and become withdrawn. Of course, many parents would say, “I didn’t mean to hurt my child. I just wanted them to grow up strong.” However, this reaction also stems from a lack of practice in considering the child’s perspective.
Try switching places for a moment. Imagine you are experiencing extreme fear right now. You want to escape the situation immediately because of your terror, but then someone next to you smugly says, “What’s the big deal? Why are you so scared?” Would that person’s words truly be comforting in that situation? Could that single remark make your fear disappear? Probably not. And it’s the same for children.
Thus, the most crucial aspect of communicating with children is ‘accurate message delivery’. While clear communication is important in any conversation, it’s especially vital when talking to children—we must be even more explicit about what we want to say and why. Children haven’t yet developed the ability to instantly grasp their parents’ true feelings. The capacity to interpret the emotions behind words, beyond their surface meaning, develops gradually—it’s not an innate skill. Therefore, parents must clarify the meaning of their words so children can understand and choose language that matches their intended message.
To reiterate, children lack the ability to read the emotions or intentions hidden within your words. Consequently, every word spoken in anger, habitual expressions, or carelessly thrown-out language can be taken at face value by the child. If parents repeatedly display emotional language or violent attitudes, the child will mimic them. This is because it becomes learned behavior for the child.
Approach your child with respect. First, clarify for yourself what message you truly wish to convey. Then, ensure that message reaches your child sincerely by expressing your words and actions consistently. Children are still young and may not understand perfectly. But sincerity will eventually get through, and it will become the foundation for building deep trust between parent and child.
I sincerely hope this brief note offers some small help in fostering deeper communication and a more personal relationship with your child.
Thank you.

Students Within the Formal Education System

“I like studying, but I hate exams.”
Faced with my daughter’s words, I was lost in thought for quite some time. What should I say? How should I say it? Shouldn’t learning be inherently joyful and exciting? Yet, when the semester begins, the first class invariably opens with a discussion of how grades will be calculated. The teacher explains the scoring: 30% midterm, 30% final, 20% assignments, 20% presentations. While the student’s curiosity lies in ‘what will we learn?’, the teacher starts with ‘how will I grade you?’.
My daughter has already sensed this difference. Her curiosity about the direction of learning or the nature of assignments is buried, and disappointment repeats itself in the face of those numerical grades. At first, she felt hurt, but now she accepts it as just the way things are. Studying is no longer fun; it has become something she simply must do. She says she studies because she has to, because she must.
After grumbling about this for a while, lately she’s opened up more deeply, saying, “I hate exams.” She says she dislikes the competitive atmosphere that naturally forms among the kids during exam periods even more than the pressure the exams themselves bring. She said it feels unpleasant to get swept up in it without even realizing it. Then one day, she also mentioned that she didn’t want to lend her notebooks anymore. She confessed that while she used to not understand kids like that, now she felt that way herself, and she disliked that mindset in herself. Hearing that made me feel bitter.
School has become a place that neither teaches children ‘how to dream’ nor even allows them to ‘dream’. So my daughter, at an age when she should be shining brightly, already looks worn out and exhausted by words like grades, scores, and evaluations. School now feels like a place where ‘even if you have a dream, it’s hard to pursue it’ – no, not even dreams, just fierce competition remains.
My daughter now observes beauty and inspiration from afar, like watching a TV show, rather than experiencing it through her own growth. It breaks my heart, yet I remain the mother who keeps repeating, “Still, you have to do well on the tests.” Even knowing that confining a child within the mold of perfection makes dreaming harder, I cannot let go of my desire for my daughter to be the “model student.” I am a mother lacking both the courage to break free from that mold and the grace to accept it.
Sometimes I wonder what would happen if I suggested rejecting the institutional education system altogether. If my daughter were to blurt out, “Yeah, I’ll quit!” that response would probably terrify me more. And if she answered, “I’ll try to endure it,” that somehow feels even more heart-wrenching. How can I set my child free within this structure of endless competition? Sending her abroad for studies is realistically difficult for us as a couple.
In the end, what we could offer was a small, simple choice. We decided to gift her the guitar she’d wanted for so long. We don’t expect a single guitar to change her life. But we hope that while learning it, she’ll feel excitement and joy in that moment. We cautiously hope that this small joy will someday become a piece of her life, helping her take steps again toward what she wants to do, not just what she has to do.

Children’s Stress: It Starts with the Parents

Stress among children has been noticeably increasing recently. This phenomenon is also evident in pediatric clinics. In fact, over 20% of children visiting hospitals present with symptoms related to stress. Unlike simple colds or injuries, many complaints like stomachaches or headaches often stem more from psychological stress than from medical conditions.
So, where does the stress children experience actually originate? Things that seem trivial from an adult’s perspective can be significant stressors for children. This is because children are still emotionally immature and lack the ability to clearly recognize the causes of their emotions or overcome them on their own.
For instance, children feel significant pressure when placed in unfamiliar environments, like the first day back to school after vacation, or when faced with challenging tasks. Furthermore, conflicts within the home, such as parental arguments or disputes, can also be overwhelming emotional shocks for a child. In such situations, children may become emotionally withdrawn, display irritability or anxiety, and complain of stomachaches. They might also exhibit tic symptoms like nail-biting or frequent eye blinking, and frequently have nightmares.
Most parents assume their children are stressed by peer relationships or academic performance. While such external factors certainly play a role, they cannot be the sole explanation. However, a closer look at the sources of children’s stress reveals that the most significant factor is none other than their ‘parents’. Children suffer emotional distress in environments marked by parental indifference, frequent arguments, and emotional instability. It is not uncommon for parents to neglect their children while remaining unaware that they are actually abusing them. When parents display conflict at home, children suffer from anxiety, wondering, “If they get divorced, will I become an orphan?” Children who are particularly sensitive to social issues are exposed to this stress even more intensely.
Conversely, children who grow up in stable, warm homes, receiving love and care, show relatively stronger resilience even in everyday stressful situations. Research even shows that when enduring physical pain, children with strong family bonds and trust experience stress hormones plateauing at a certain level. Ultimately, the emotional stability children receive from their parents empowers them to develop the strength to cope more actively and effectively with diverse situations.
I must emphasize this to parents: Never forget that the greatest harm inflicted on a child often begins with indifference. You must look closely at your child’s emotions and listen carefully to even the smallest signals they send. The home should be the safest place in the world for a child, and parents must be the ones who firmly protect that place.
Thank you for reading this long post to the end. Our small acts of care can become the strength a child needs to endure the world. How about taking a moment today to look into your child’s heart just once more?

The Cycle of Obesity
No gathering is complete without one inevitable topic: ‘losing weight’. Success stories of dieting are undoubtedly the center of attention, and the transformed figure of the slimmed-down protagonist becomes an object of admiration. Yet reality paints a starkly different picture. Modern humans waddle through life with thicker waists than any era in human history. While nutritional intake has become more abundant than in the past, physical labor has drastically decreased. In fact, the average weight of men worldwide has increased by about 10kg over the past 20 years, and this trend is expected to continue. Obesity has now transcended being merely an individual health issue, emerging as a problem for society, nations, and indeed the entire planet. The social and economic losses stemming from obesity are beyond imagination, and obesity is now even regarded as a significant socioeconomic indicator. A few years ago, the UK even created a ‘Minister for Obesity’ position, formally declaring war on overweight. The ‘war on obesity’ unfolding across the globe is that intense and serious.
Just a few decades ago, obesity was seen as the ‘privilege of the wealthy’. Cartoon characters representing the rich invariably sported large bellies, and being overweight seemed a symbol of affluence and leisure. But now, the situation has completely reversed. It is precisely those with less economic means who are more easily exposed to obesity. Cheap meat and fatty foods are abundant, but the time and leisure to burn them off are scarce. This is the so-called ‘shift in obesity.’ Low-cost, high-calorie foods have rapidly taken over the tables of low-income households. Without sufficient time or money for exercise, people increasingly live with excess weight. Particularly in our society, obesity often stems from meat-centric eating habits. Fast food like hamburgers, fried chicken, and pizza is driving people toward meat-centered diets. While breeding techniques are said to have advanced, ultimately this is merely the refinement of ‘fattening technology’. For instance, between 1984 and 1993, the number of fast food outlets in the UK doubled, and during the same period, the adult obesity rate also doubled. Fast food, which masks the inherent flavor of meat with sugar and sauces, can rightly be called a ‘white terror’ that erases all other tastes.
It’s truly difficult for poor people to lose weight. They lack the time to exercise, the means to maintain a healthy diet, and the economic foundation to manage themselves using their leisure time. Ultimately, they are forced to live with the excess weight they carry. The protruding bellies of people waddling about doing menial tasks are a unique social landscape of today, one that didn’t exist in the past. According to a survey by the Korea Youth Policy Institute, the lower the household income, the higher the number of obese children. While high-income families can afford balanced meals and exercise, lower-income families often rely on irregular meals and instant foods like ramen to get by. The sight of pot-bellied parents lingering at fast-food joints with their obese children is not merely a scene; it’s a cross-section of a polarized society and a very dangerous signal. This is not merely an issue of dietary habits but a structural problem of ‘obesity inheritance’ and a sad reflection of reality.
The obesity problem cannot be dismissed solely as individual laziness or lack of willpower. Within this unbalanced structure where the conditions for a healthy life are too obvious for some and too distant for others, we must recognize that ‘obesity inheritance’ is not just a weight issue but a structural societal problem. More urgent than success stories of weight loss is creating an environment where everyone can enjoy a healthy life. It’s time to move beyond stories of shedding pounds and talk about the weight of life we must stop passing on. The cycle of obesity must stop. Right here, right now.

The ideology of competition, its suffocating shadow

Summer vacation is back. It’s the season for part-time jobs. Students’ fingers grow busy, their eyes sharp. Click, click. They endlessly refresh screens searching for jobs paying even one thousand won more. High schoolers, college students—it doesn’t matter. Right now, South Korea is truly a ‘part-time job paradise’. My college-aged daughter, too, sat at the breakfast table one morning, eyes bloodshot, and said excitedly: She’d found a part-time job at an accounting office. From 9 AM to 6 PM, paying 6,000 won an hour. “Don’t you know that power comes from money, and independence comes from earning your own meals?” My mouth, ready to nag, fell shut at her words. These kids, living as the financial crisis generation, the so-called ‘880,000 won generation’. I realized I couldn’t simply say that label was wrong.
My daughter said, “When I told them I got a part-time job paying 6,000 won an hour, the other kids went crazy asking where I found it. But I’m not telling them. They’ll just take my spot.” She wore a proud look. At first, I laughed, but soon, a part of my heart felt heavy. She spoke of it as if it were a joke, or some great achievement, but how much seriousness and desperation lay hidden beneath that cool facade? Scenes I used to see only in television documentaries were now unfolding before my eyes as my own child’s reality. A reality where they react sensitively to a single point difference in performance evaluations, where friends won’t even show each other their notes, and where they keep even the cram school they attend a secret. Hearing such stories, I’d simply thought, ‘Kids these days have it tough.’ But seeing that competition etched so clearly on my daughter’s face made my heart ache.
Competition as a means of survival. How had it become so deeply internalized within these children? How had the ideology of competition so thoroughly permeated our society? It had quietly seeped in under the guise of education, long ago. Like the saying “You die, I live,” schools have taught that competition is the very principle of life through a strictly hierarchical grading system and rankings. A structure where you cannot survive without defeating someone, without surpassing or knocking someone down. The paradox that the strong defeat the righteous. But is that truly the only way to survive?
Facing my daughter’s inner world terrifies me. When I sense that her once-pure eyes have begun reading and calculating the hidden truths of reality, parental responsibility and helplessness intertwine. How should I raise this child? In this bleak world, where the belief that competition is the only path to survival prevails, what should I teach her, and what must I protect? That summer morning, a small conversation that began with talk of part-time work posed a profound question to me. Can the world our child will live in be one where they learn the value of cooperation and solidarity, not just competition? Is the direction this society is heading truly the right one?
This summer, I feel I must seriously ponder the answer to that question.
Thank you for listening.